Jr entered my room asking about college and whether or not it was too late to sign up for classes. We talked about it briefly and I offered to help him with the process. He went on to explain that he had not pursued it further because Paige had given him instruction to stay in his room and play the electronic games. This is what she wanted. He went on to say that it was over and that he had posted a lengthy rant on Facebook in an effort to sort of seal the deal - so that he would not be talked into taking her back later. He went on to talk about her infidelities and other goings on.
This girl claimed to be a meth-addict, behaved like an alcoholic, plagued with endless diseases (cancer, lupis, endometriosis, etc.), she is a bone-thin vegetarian who talked about wanting to do a 40-day fast before she gets pregnant, and was supposedly abused by her first spouse.
Paige had discussed her "cancer" with me and explained that the doctors were simply "keeping an eye on it." Did she think we've all been fools and believing her stories all along? We simply kept our mouths shut because she was so bizarre. Jr asked me about cancer and how it's treated. I explained to him that doctors don't simply sit back and watch and wait with cancer. Biopsies are done, tests are run, and if it is cancer then they make certain it is all out.
I asked him about the time he took her to the walk-in clinic, and whether she filled out the paperwork on her health background. He points at me as if to be on to something and exclaims that she did not include any diseases or illnesses on the paperwork, and instead told him that it was not necessary and the doctors didn't need to know all of that information.
At the time, she'd had her tonsils removed and as they were healing rather slowing and bleeding continued, she returned for an early follow-up with the doctor. Jr told me that the doctor had said that Paige was healing slowly because she was doing everything wrong (warm packs rather than cold packs, gargling salted water, smoking immediately after surgery, etc., etc.). Paige quickly disputed him (saying that Jr never explains anything correctly) and her explanation was that she was part of a one-percentile group that had some sort of something or other that caused her to heal slowly... -__- (why am I not surprised? According to her, she is always the exception/fluke.)
I asked him about the time he took her to the walk-in clinic, and whether she filled out the paperwork on her health background. He points at me as if to be on to something and exclaims that she did not include any diseases or illnesses on the paperwork, and instead told him that it was not necessary and the doctors didn't need to know all of that information.
At the time, she'd had her tonsils removed and as they were healing rather slowing and bleeding continued, she returned for an early follow-up with the doctor. Jr told me that the doctor had said that Paige was healing slowly because she was doing everything wrong (warm packs rather than cold packs, gargling salted water, smoking immediately after surgery, etc., etc.). Paige quickly disputed him (saying that Jr never explains anything correctly) and her explanation was that she was part of a one-percentile group that had some sort of something or other that caused her to heal slowly... -__- (why am I not surprised? According to her, she is always the exception/fluke.)
I asked Jr whether or not he believed that her first husband actually abused Paige the way that she'd said - again, he points at me as if I'd asked the winning question. He goes on to explain that at one point Paige had hit herself over and over until she bruised and then ran away saying that she was going to tell the cops that he'd hit her. At the time, he was quite worried because he knew that the military doesn't mess around with spousal abuse, and that since she had bruising he would likely be held responsible and it would most certainly effect his military career. I brought up how Corey had sat in jail for a time because of Miranda and a fight that they'd had. He remembered, and his doubts about Paige's abuse by her husband was obvious.
Then, be became conflicted as he acknowledged that they'd had good times and I replied, "Of course. You were together for two years. You're bound to have good times. But the issue isn't the good times. It's easy to love someone when things are good." I went on to explain my mother's advice to me; make your partner as mad as he/she can be so to see how they behave when they are truly angry, and if (you) can still love them and put up with them - then you know that you have a worthy relationship.
He tells me that if he tries to get back together with Paige that he wants me to step in and discourage it.
He tells me that if he tries to get back together with Paige that he wants me to step in and discourage it.
We talked and talked and talked until 6:30 in the morning.
The next day he left early and came home late, I'm guessing he was out with his cousin having a good time (something he was not allowed to do when he was with Paige). He's spent more time out of his bedroom and talking to old friends and family. This is good for him. A new chapter begins.
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