Still, it seems, they would have preferred that she and Roy reconcile. I went over the situation with Roy, stating how I felt that his mother hated me because: (1) I was white, (2) I was not the mother to her favorite grandchildren, and (3) because she, herself, would rather have raised the boys (even though she would have bitched about it). He agreed, I was probably right on all of my assumptions....
I've gotten the impression over the years that it was his mother that helped build negative feelings toward me throughout the rest of the family. Although, the fact that Roy and I were 'on again-off again' surely did not help matters.
I remember, in the first few months of our relationship, being at his brother, Randy's home with his (then) girlfriend, Jamie (now his wife), and Randy kicks me out of his house because I was not drinking enough to satisfy him. I was stunned. He literally said, "if you're too good that you can't drink more (alcohol) - then you can just get out!" ...he's never apologized. I remember looking at Roy as if to say, "whelp, are we leaving?" and he just stared at me and said, "whaaat?"
How do you forgive someone who never asks for forgiveness?
Through the years, Roy's mother has yelled at me for various things, usually something to do with her favorite grandchildren and it was everything I could do to keep from bitching her out right back. I can't stand her, but she's still Roy's mother and I wouldn't want to be the one responsible for the ridge between us. Regardless, we will never like each other now. And I know, if I did try to talk to her - she wouldn't get it; she is very closed minded and very uneducated. She has admitted that she is "too old to change". Her way of thinking and raising children is SO off from my way of thinking and raising children. She allows the kids to come and go without answering to anyone as to where they are going and with whom. And when we placed Corey in their house because of his mother's threats on our lives, he joined the military and was gone for weeks before they said anything to Roy (but note here that Roy already had the notion that Corey had joined the military because he'd stopped responding to texts).
That's just not me. I was raised to tell my mom where I was going and with whom and what time I would return. It was a respect thing - so she wouldn't worry, or would know when to start worrying. It's a safety thing. If something had happened to me, at least she would have something to tell the cops, ya know.
What kind of parents finds themselves in the position where you're calling the cops to report a missing child, and when they ask you questions about who they were with and where they were going - ya got nothing...? Seriously!
Not mwah.
Okay, so whatever. I can't stand my mother-in-law. Join the crowd right. I mean, there's a club for that, right! ;)
Then there's the rest of them. I have to admit. It kinda hurts. It kinda sucks. They usually are tolerant and semi-polite when I'm around and I don't believe that they just sit around and bad mouth me. (I really don't think I'm that big a deal to them.) But I do think they harbor some ill feelings about me. I know that Kasey once told me (when she was upset with me over the whole Corey-drama-thing) that, "Everyone was right about me!" Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but that is a sort of a clue, isn't it...
So,
treat me like shit but you've never taken the time to get to know me;
pass your judgments on me when you know nothing of the situation;
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